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Our Loved Ones are Important to Us

Because the quality of life of our loved ones is Important to us, so is this message…
7 Common Myths and Misconceptions about Hospice


 We are living longer.  That’s good news!  Most of us are no longer dying of acute infections and plagues.  More good news!  Unfortunately, the diseases that oftentimes consume us now tend to drag on for an extended period.  So, while living longer, we may not be living better – especially toward the end.  We know this to be true.  We don’t want to think about a time when our loved ones may no longer be with us.  By not thinking about it and by being uninformed or misinformed about the options as our loved ones get older or fall ill, we are doing a tremendous disservice to them, and to ourselves, if they are diagnosed with a terminal illness.  It’s truly tragic that hospice is seen as taboo and as something not to discuss because hospice is not the enemy.  The illness is.

If you or a love one face/have faced a terminal illness I am truly sorry for your suffering.  If you have used hospice services,  please comment and share your experience below.

Hospice’s sole purpose is to increase quality of life:  to comfort us and our loved ones, and to make everyone’s life easier and more fulfilling.  When the days of life are limited, hospice adds life to the remaining days.  When I was working for a hospice company, one patient (I refer to her as “The Entertainer”) chose no medication during the day so she could be as alert, active, and interactive as possible with her family and friends.  At night she threw out her arm and said “Let me have it!” as she tapped the inside of her elbow.  She slept through the night and started over the next morning.  Every experience is different because each is tailored to the patient, and every patient is unique.

In addition to the stigma surrounding hospice, there are also many MYTHS and MISCONCEPTIONS running rampant.  I address seven here.

1a     MYTH:  Hospice means everyone is giving up.

FACT:  It really means that caring people will work together to improve our quality of life physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually with high quality palliative (comfort) care and symptom management.  A team of nurses, home health aides, clergy, social workers, volunteers, and others work together with the patient and their loved ones to create an individual plan with the sole purpose of supporting and comforting everyone involved.  Sometimes doctors hold off on recommending hospice because they don’t want to give the “giving up” message, but by opening up that line of communication early, the patient and family will reap the greatest benefit.

2e     MYTH:  Hospice is just for the last few days of life.  I’m not there yet.

FACT:  Hospice certainly helps people “die with dignity.”  It also has many advantages and services for up to the last six months of life, and sometimes longer.  Most patients and their caregivers miss out on very valuable services by waiting until the very end.  Earlier entry ensures comfort, support, and care that will add valuable life to our days.

3e     MYTH:  If a new treatment becomes available, it won’t be an option.

FACT:  Patients can be discharged from hospice whenever they choose to be, for any reason, and for any number of times.  If the new treatment doesn’t work, they can always return to hospice for excellent palliative care.

4c     MYTH:  Hospice is expensive.

FACT:  Hospice is covered by Medicare, Medicaid, and most major insurance companies.  All services, medication, and equipment related to the diagnosis are covered, sometimes with a copay (never over $5.00.)  This often saves the the patient a lot of money.

5h     MYTH:  Hospice is only for the elderly or cancer patients.

FACT:  Hospice is for any person in the end stages of life who is diagnosed with six or fewer months to live, although this can be extended as often as needed.

6g     MYTH:  The patient can no longer go to the hospital if needed.

FACT:  The purpose of palliative care is to minimize hospital visits and take care of the patient at home with qualified and caring staff.  This reduces everyone’s stress and the patient’s discomfort.  Hospital stays are always permitted when necessary.

7b     Myth:  The patients can’t keep their own doctor.

FACT:  The patient can certainly keep their own doctor if they choose to.  The hospice doctor will work closely with him or her on their behalf.

PLEASE, for your the sake of your loved ones, don’t let the stigma of hospice cloud their judgement.  Learn about it now, so you can help them understand it if/when the time comes.  Hospice can add valuable life to their days.

For more information on hospice, visit:  Medicare and the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization.

The Journey to Being Happy, Healthy, & Successful


25 Habits Of People Who Are Happy, Healthy & Successful. (Kristy Rao, June 19, 2013, MindBodyGreen.com)

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” –Loa-tzu, from The Way of Lao-tzu.

I hope, that our journeys will be many more than a thousand miles.  We still need to start with a single step.  Each moment of each day is a chance to take another step.  As I saw on Facebook, “taking a step backward after taking a step forward is not a disaster, it’s a cha-cha.”  Dance like nobody’s watching!

This list of 25 habits is a lofty list indeed (click link above.)  I don’t think we need them all to be happy, healthy, and successful, and we certainly don’t have to perfect them.  But as we strive towards each and every one of them, we can most certainly increase our joy, health, and success.

Perhaps we can choose one a week.  Pick one from the list, and be mindful of that one for the week (or longer.)  For me number 20 was a kicker.  “Don’t complain.”  I mastered that one… for quite some time.  Then all of the sudden I noticed that I had reverted back.  I wasn’t mindful.  We are all works in progress!  Once down pat, choose another.*  The goal is not perfection.  The goal is to continually move in the direction toward where we aspire to.  As Kristy Rao says in the above linked article:  “Who among us doesn’t want to be a happy, healthy and successful human being?”

*Are you the type that says ‘tried it, couldn’t do it’?  Then don’t wait to get that one down.  Pick another.  Start with an easier one!  Perhaps one you are already regularly doing.  Get used to noticing that you are doing it.  It’s not easy to be mindful when our lives are so chock-filled with information and responsibilities.  Don’t be hard on yourself.  There is always the next step you take.  And the one after that…


Sharing: More on Happiness

…Freud… theorized that unhappiness is a default condition because it takes less effort to be unhappy than to be happy.
                                                                     –Gregg Easterbrook

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So many parallels in this article to what believe and what I’ve shared here so far, I just had to post it!

Freud may be right, but I will tell you from experience:  Unhappiness may take less initial effort, but it is exhausting.  Happiness, on the other hand, is invigorating!

So be selfish, and do something for someone else today!

(Click on the title to get to the article I’ve quoted above.)